Healing the divides…

This entire election process has impacted so many people with the campaign bitterness taking a toll on relationships across America. Behind closed doors, even immediate family members have become divided within their own home.

Of course, the latest TikTok viral trend has made light of it all by “canceling out” the votes from family members, calling out older family members for voting against their candidate. Such heated rhetoric during the election process means that conflict is a reality for many families and friends across our country. But, does it really have to be this way?

Our individual political views tend to be tied up in our identity and they are extremely emotional. It’s better to always set boundaries around inflammatory topics and be kind, be explicit when drawing lines around discussions that can become too heated.

Making every attempt to engage in respectful dialogue can also help disagreeing sides gain perspective; focusing on shared values can go a very long way in diffusing tension while taking a good look at the bigger picture. Politicians come and go but there will always be that family connection, no matter what happens.

From the Writer’s Workshop: Write a post in exactly 9 sentences.

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Reverberation…

Music is part of everyone’s life, it’s everywhere. Today, one of my favorite songs, “American Girl” by Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, was playing on our Sonos system, which, in recent months, has gone through some asinine upgrades resulting in horrific performance resulting in both consumer outrage and a twenty-five percent decline in the company’s stock performance! That is a sad story and accompanying rant which I’m saving for another day. Meanwhile, back to Tom Petty whose October 20th birthday I recently noted on social media as one more year since his passing has come around. Most, if not all of Tom Petty’s music feels so right and hits me in a way that’s hard to describe, bringing mixed feelings of relaxation and stimulation, leaving me to wonder why we love the songs we do.

Some research has shown that we can listen to our favorite songs over and over, never getting bored with said repetition. Music tends to bring mixed emotions at times, hitting some emotional cord inside of us so we play a particular song more. Music has always been an important part of my life and, over the years, my taste in it has changed exponentially. The music I choose reflects who I am and the many different aspects of my life.

Clinically speaking, we listen to certain songs repeatedly because they activate the reward system in our brain, releasing dopamine and generating a kind of addictive process. Since certain songs make us feel good, we want to listen to them again and, when we know a song very well, an intense discharge of dopamine occurs in our brain when we anticipate certain parts of the song. This doesn’t happen when we listen to music we dislike and we then choose to gravitate to the well-loved songs that make our brains light up.

I find this all so interesting as I sit here with music running through my head and I think about some songs that are special, at least to me. Some, I will play over and over again when I’m driving. My finger repeatedly presses forward, then reverse, on the steering wheel control as I go along. For some reason, those chosen few songs stimulate a different brain process than any of the other tunes on my extensive playlist. That feeling we get from our best-loved music is very cool! Admit it.

Before I forget, a random list of what I feel are the top ten best songs of all time. Most of this list is music by Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, starting with “The Waiting”, “You Got Lucky”, “Don’t Do Me Like That”, “Room at the Top” and, of course, “American Girl”. I’ll also throw out Linkin Park’s “Leave Out All the Rest”, Gary Moore’s, “Still Got the Blues”, Sia’s “My Snowman and Me”, System of a Down’s “Toxicity” and Muse’s “Supermassive Black Hole”.

Rest assured, the “repeat” button is activated when each one is played.

From the Writer’s Workshop…List the top ten best songs of all time, according to you.

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A choice…

We often struggle to share a story and, frankly, if that fear isn’t in place, we may well be in the minority.


Let’s face it, as hard as we try, we just cannot be anyone else, doing so defeats the purpose of us being who we are and of sharing all that makes us unique. Being someone else in order to fit into any accepted norm in the eyes and minds of others impacts our ability to walk our own path and stand out from the crowd. The underlying goal is always focused on avoiding rejection and surviving.


To achieve a fulfilling life, we all damn well need to walk our own path, stand out, often keeping a good distance from the crowd, while allowing our unique strengths to shine. At times, we all need to step back and realize that many people do want to connect with you, hear your opinions or consider your ideas even if there is some underlying disagreement and that, in itself, can be healthy as we set any fear aside and move forward. It helps to create a common ground of understanding, especially in present times when this can be considered a gift given the constant political diatribes being hurled at everyone, in every direction.


Then again, that damn fear can turn around and we feel that it will never leave, in itself, not the problem but how we relate to that fear definitely is. We can either give into our fears and doubts and end up living with walls which continue to close in on us or we realize that we gave too much importance to these feelings.


Take steps to move beyond the habit of taking things so seriously and push aside that “what if” mindset. Look through the illusion that you have created for yourself, get inspired, and ignore any fearful thoughts about what people will think. Thoughts do not hold power and can’t command our attention; if you watch and let them pass, they float away.

Tell that story.

From the Writer’s Workshop: Write a post in exactly 13 sentences.

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