Family fragments…

We all want family to be a source of love and support but there are times that relationships within families become strained or broken. The worst feeling is when your own family turns their back on you, such as been the case for many following the recent presidential election. Sadder yet is the distance that grows when there is a complete breakdown of communication and there’s a failure with being a good person while treating others with respect regardless if your particular political choice won, or lost.

Even in fractured families, communication is everything and, with that, it is never acceptable to attack, demean or treat others in a disrespectful manner. A broken family doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with the people in it, regardless of any heated emotions involved. Too often, there is just a breakdown in productive communication which leaves opposing sides glaring at each other from a distance. Sadly, the damage left brings fragments of loneliness and heartbreak unless we take positive steps to rebuild what was lost and focus on forgiveness, the first step in any broken family’s journey of healing.

Broken families don’t have to, and shouldn’t, stay that way forever. Experiences can make us stronger if we give them the room to grow. A broken family isn’t the end, rather than an opportunity for a new beginning. Love doesn’t stop with damaged family ties, it just gets redirected as each family has the chance for new beginnings.

From the Writer’s Workshop: Write a post in exactly 11 sentences.



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Healing the divides…

This entire election process has impacted so many people with the campaign bitterness taking a toll on relationships across America. Behind closed doors, even immediate family members have become divided within their own home.

Of course, the latest TikTok viral trend has made light of it all by “canceling out” the votes from family members, calling out older family members for voting against their candidate. Such heated rhetoric during the election process means that conflict is a reality for many families and friends across our country. But, does it really have to be this way?

Our individual political views tend to be tied up in our identity and they are extremely emotional. It’s better to always set boundaries around inflammatory topics and be kind, be explicit when drawing lines around discussions that can become too heated.

Making every attempt to engage in respectful dialogue can also help disagreeing sides gain perspective; focusing on shared values can go a very long way in diffusing tension while taking a good look at the bigger picture. Politicians come and go but there will always be that family connection, no matter what happens.

From the Writer’s Workshop: Write a post in exactly 9 sentences.

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Reverberation…

Music is part of everyone’s life, it’s everywhere. Today, one of my favorite songs, “American Girl” by Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, was playing on our Sonos system, which, in recent months, has gone through some asinine upgrades resulting in horrific performance resulting in both consumer outrage and a twenty-five percent decline in the company’s stock performance! That is a sad story and accompanying rant which I’m saving for another day. Meanwhile, back to Tom Petty whose October 20th birthday I recently noted on social media as one more year since his passing has come around. Most, if not all of Tom Petty’s music feels so right and hits me in a way that’s hard to describe, bringing mixed feelings of relaxation and stimulation, leaving me to wonder why we love the songs we do.

Some research has shown that we can listen to our favorite songs over and over, never getting bored with said repetition. Music tends to bring mixed emotions at times, hitting some emotional cord inside of us so we play a particular song more. Music has always been an important part of my life and, over the years, my taste in it has changed exponentially. The music I choose reflects who I am and the many different aspects of my life.

Clinically speaking, we listen to certain songs repeatedly because they activate the reward system in our brain, releasing dopamine and generating a kind of addictive process. Since certain songs make us feel good, we want to listen to them again and, when we know a song very well, an intense discharge of dopamine occurs in our brain when we anticipate certain parts of the song. This doesn’t happen when we listen to music we dislike and we then choose to gravitate to the well-loved songs that make our brains light up.

I find this all so interesting as I sit here with music running through my head and I think about some songs that are special, at least to me. Some, I will play over and over again when I’m driving. My finger repeatedly presses forward, then reverse, on the steering wheel control as I go along. For some reason, those chosen few songs stimulate a different brain process than any of the other tunes on my extensive playlist. That feeling we get from our best-loved music is very cool! Admit it.

Before I forget, a random list of what I feel are the top ten best songs of all time. Most of this list is music by Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, starting with “The Waiting”, “You Got Lucky”, “Don’t Do Me Like That”, “Room at the Top” and, of course, “American Girl”. I’ll also throw out Linkin Park’s “Leave Out All the Rest”, Gary Moore’s, “Still Got the Blues”, Sia’s “My Snowman and Me”, System of a Down’s “Toxicity” and Muse’s “Supermassive Black Hole”.

Rest assured, the “repeat” button is activated when each one is played.

From the Writer’s Workshop…List the top ten best songs of all time, according to you.

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