Reverberation…

Music is part of everyone’s life, it’s everywhere. Today, one of my favorite songs, “American Girl” by Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, was playing on our Sonos system, which, in recent months, has gone through some asinine upgrades resulting in horrific performance resulting in both consumer outrage and a twenty-five percent decline in the company’s stock performance! That is a sad story and accompanying rant which I’m saving for another day. Meanwhile, back to Tom Petty whose October 20th birthday I recently noted on social media as one more year since his passing has come around. Most, if not all of Tom Petty’s music feels so right and hits me in a way that’s hard to describe, bringing mixed feelings of relaxation and stimulation, leaving me to wonder why we love the songs we do.

Some research has shown that we can listen to our favorite songs over and over, never getting bored with said repetition. Music tends to bring mixed emotions at times, hitting some emotional cord inside of us so we play a particular song more. Music has always been an important part of my life and, over the years, my taste in it has changed exponentially. The music I choose reflects who I am and the many different aspects of my life.

Clinically speaking, we listen to certain songs repeatedly because they activate the reward system in our brain, releasing dopamine and generating a kind of addictive process. Since certain songs make us feel good, we want to listen to them again and, when we know a song very well, an intense discharge of dopamine occurs in our brain when we anticipate certain parts of the song. This doesn’t happen when we listen to music we dislike and we then choose to gravitate to the well-loved songs that make our brains light up.

I find this all so interesting as I sit here with music running through my head and I think about some songs that are special, at least to me. Some, I will play over and over again when I’m driving. My finger repeatedly presses forward, then reverse, on the steering wheel control as I go along. For some reason, those chosen few songs stimulate a different brain process than any of the other tunes on my extensive playlist. That feeling we get from our best-loved music is very cool! Admit it.

Before I forget, a random list of what I feel are the top ten best songs of all time. Most of this list is music by Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, starting with “The Waiting”, “You Got Lucky”, “Don’t Do Me Like That”, “Room at the Top” and, of course, “American Girl”. I’ll also throw out Linkin Park’s “Leave Out All the Rest”, Gary Moore’s, “Still Got the Blues”, Sia’s “My Snowman and Me”, System of a Down’s “Toxicity” and Muse’s “Supermassive Black Hole”.

Rest assured, the “repeat” button is activated when each one is played.

From the Writer’s Workshop…List the top ten best songs of all time, according to you.

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Facts or interpretations?

A Chinese saying with somewhat of a debatable hint of being a curse is “May you live in interesting times” which opens yet another discussion as to the statement being an opinion or fact. There is no substantive evidence that this saying was an ancient or modern curse but given the times we currently live in, there’s a bit of interest in the statement as it is personally interpreted. In this day and age, it has become the mission of millions to turn over every rock in researching their need to establish the basis for a fact or opinion.

Interesting times, indeed.


We all know that the facts of any matter are verifiable, that truth is determined by researching any evidence and that sets the stage for differing perspectives on a given situation. Facts are the foundation for providing crucial support for the assertion of an argument. But, facts by themselves are completely worthless unless they are put in context where conclusions can be drawn and meaning is established. With that, speaking up on a particular topic can bring criticism while silence incurs vociferous blame with not speaking out.


Then we have opinions which are judgments based on facts, honest attempts to draw reasonable conclusions from factual evidence. Most opinions are potentially changeable, depending on how the evidence is interpreted. Opinions, by themselves, have little power to convince and it’s important to state necessary evidence which contributed to establishing said opinion. A recent post on social media from someone close stated how often they saw posts and heard folks in real life talk about things that are anecdotal or opinion-based as though they were facts. The post went on to state how it was fine to hear of shared experiences along with any discussion involved but for people to treat said observation as Gospel was simply annoying. I hesitated to share additional commentary well, just because; some things, even those funny as hell, are way better left unsaid


Unlike an opinion, there are beliefs which are convictions based on cultural or personal faith, morality or values. These are viewpoints, not based on facts or other evidence, cannot be disproved or contested in a logical or rational manner.


White it’s important to be able to share an opinion, that does not mean it should always be shared. If someone in your immediate circle is more to the “right” and you are more to the “left”, there is a very strong possibility that there will never be any agreement and there are definitely some topics which should never be discussed. It goes without saying how politics can be very touchy and personal so it is best to stop pushing those around you to agree on everything and just accept a difference of opinion. Friends and especially family won’t always agree with us about our beliefs and opinions and it’s important to retain respect for those around us. It’s fine if no agreement can’t be reached because having different perspectives help people to learn and grow stronger.


Finding common ground can be well, beyond difficult, especially where family is concerned. Different generations bring clashing opinions but when any debate begins, think about what you hope to gain from that interaction. A change of mind or insight into the beliefs of others? Staying both open and respectful creates an important platform for understanding. Respect the human element in the other person’s values and understand that, where political beliefs are concerned, there is a shared concern for society with focus on economic or environmental stability. Taking that step back may help recognize that any “opposing” views may not be wildly different from our own and there is room for agreement.


Mostly, know when to make a necessary exit if emotions run a bit hot and avoid trying to get that last word in, something we are all guilty of doing. Don’t deny it. Just leave it there for that inevitable day when the discussion is bound to resurface and possibly healthier perspectives will emerge, resulting in civil exchanges of opinions and facts.

Sure they will, likely when pigs fly.

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A choice…

We often struggle to share a story and, frankly, if that fear isn’t in place, we may well be in the minority.


Let’s face it, as hard as we try, we just cannot be anyone else, doing so defeats the purpose of us being who we are and of sharing all that makes us unique. Being someone else in order to fit into any accepted norm in the eyes and minds of others impacts our ability to walk our own path and stand out from the crowd. The underlying goal is always focused on avoiding rejection and surviving.


To achieve a fulfilling life, we all damn well need to walk our own path, stand out, often keeping a good distance from the crowd, while allowing our unique strengths to shine. At times, we all need to step back and realize that many people do want to connect with you, hear your opinions or consider your ideas even if there is some underlying disagreement and that, in itself, can be healthy as we set any fear aside and move forward. It helps to create a common ground of understanding, especially in present times when this can be considered a gift given the constant political diatribes being hurled at everyone, in every direction.


Then again, that damn fear can turn around and we feel that it will never leave, in itself, not the problem but how we relate to that fear definitely is. We can either give into our fears and doubts and end up living with walls which continue to close in on us or we realize that we gave too much importance to these feelings.


Take steps to move beyond the habit of taking things so seriously and push aside that “what if” mindset. Look through the illusion that you have created for yourself, get inspired, and ignore any fearful thoughts about what people will think. Thoughts do not hold power and can’t command our attention; if you watch and let them pass, they float away.

Tell that story.

From the Writer’s Workshop: Write a post in exactly 13 sentences.

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