Hey there, Grandma!

National Grandparents Day is a secular holiday celebrated in the United States since 1978 and officially recognized in a number of countries on various days of the year, either as one holiday or sometimes as a separate Grandmothers Day and Grandfathers Day.

Got that?  Can you believe I forgot? (so did my family!)

This year, the date fell on September 11th and most of the world was focused on the tenth anniversary of 9/11.  I realized that I didn’t give my very special friend a call in celebration of her first Grandmas Day.  Actually, I have two dear friends who are first-time Grammas but this one person holds a special spot in my life and that of my family.

I’ve blogged about her, told of a fund-raising MS Walk that a group of family and friends did on her behalf, in an earlier post about shoes.  Her name is Dotti; to me and many others, she is the most beautiful, loving Grandma anywhere!

 

Dotti won’t see this post because she doesn’t go on the internet but I will print it out and send her a copy.  Knowing her, she’ll giggle and coo over this photo where she holds her new Grandson shortly after he was born.  She’ll ask me how I got this picture and I’ll have to lie admit that I swiped borrowed it from her daughter-in-law’s Facebook album.  

As I look at the photo, I know exactly what’s going through Dotti’s head as she looks down at the baby and my heart breaks.  The cruelty of Multiple Sclerosis will rob her of the chance to easily take her Grandson out for a walk, or tumble around on the floor for playtime.  Knowing her, she’ll certainly try but, with each day as her illness worsens, it becomes more difficult.  It doesn’t affect the amount of love she has for this new life and no other Grandma has a glow that comes close to hers.

Not even me.

An accomplished Hairstylist, Dotti still loves to work and can do hair for hours on end; standing in one spot is easy but the MS can make other movements hard to navigate.  Her ability to drive a car hasn’t been compromised and she’s out constantly, visiting friends and, of course, her treasured Grandson.

Right now, if it were in my power to change many things for her, I would.   I want her to enjoy her loving family for years to come.  My wish is that this new little life carries Dotti’s loving spirit inside.. always.  I hope he has her wonderful laugh and concern for how everyone else is, never focusing on her own issues.  I hope she gets to take him to a pumpkin patch, to visit Santa and on a trip to Disney.

I hope.

 

 

 

 

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Do I know you?

“Hey, I know you!”

“Are you speaking to me?”

“Well, I don’t see anyone else around so, I guess I am. It’s Patty, right?”

“Ummm, yes but I’m afraid that I don’t know who you are and if you didn’t notice, Trader Joe’s is jammed today with people everywhere.  Sorry, I really have to get back to work..”

“Oh, come on, wait a minute, what’s the rush?”

“What part of I don’t know you do you fail to understand?”

“Wow!  And after we spent so much quality time together!”

“Excuse me?”

“High school, we used to sit next to each other in Mrs. Klein’s English Lit class.”

“7th Period?    Oh my God, Steve… Steve Altman?”

“That would be me!  Wow, have I changed all that much?”

“Well, let’s be honest here, it’s been 47 years, we aren’t those kids anymore!”

“I had no problem recognizing you, except for the blonde hair and eyeglasses and…you aren’t wearing that sweater that you had on at our reunion.”

“Please, stop there, quit while you’re ahead, Steve.   I’m sorry if I was rude.  Gosh, I forgot about our 25th reunion.”

“Hey, no problem, it happens to me, a lot.  And to think I almost asked you to our senior prom, but…”

“Oh please, that I do not recall.  You only spoke to me in class and outside of that room we passed in the hall when we changed periods where you barely acknowledged me.  You were going to ask me to the prom…but?”

“You were seeing that guy Ronnie, weren’t you, the one who dumped that girl Joanie so he could take you to the prom?  That was quite the scandal in our corner of the lunchroom. Boy, she hated you, probably still does.”

“I’m sure she’s gotten over it by now, Steve unless, of course, she runs into you and it gets thrown up to her once again.”

“I heard you and Ronnie broke up a couple of years after graduation.”

“Yes, we did.  Ancient history, hardly something I ever think about.  Still practicing law, still married, kids?”

“Talk about a fast change of subject.  Didn’t mean to make you uncomfortable with that question.”

“Ahhh yes, still an Attorney, I see.  Well, I’m not on the stand but I do take the fifth.  And, the answers to my questions on your marriage situation, kids?”

“Yes to both, you?”

“Almost 41 years now, three kids, four Grandkids.”

“Happy?”

“Ecstatic…you?”

“It’s all relative, people go through so many changes over the years, you know?  Do I detect a hint of sarcasm, Patty?”

“Sarcasm?  No, more like honesty.  Growing older sucks, especially when there’s still so much you want to do while time just clicks away, faster and faster.  Speaking of time, I really have to get going, Steve.”

“That’s too bad.  I was hoping we could catch up on more of that ancient history but just have to mention that I’ll always remember that one afternoon in class.”

“And what afternoon was that?”

“That Friday, in November of 1963, you came to class late and interrupted Mrs. Klein while she was teaching, you were all upset and she wouldn’t listen to you.  She yelled at you to take your seat just as the announcement came over the loudspeaker.”

“I remember as if it were yesterday.  Mrs. Klein was furious with me and when I tried to tell her what I heard, she told me not to spread rumors. As I kept trying, she demanded that I get into my seat at once and Sydney started laughing. Remember him? Boy, that was so out of character for her to lose her temper in class, especially with me, I was one of her favorite students.”

“Her anger turned to tears when we all heard what the principal had to say and Sydney was the first one to run out of the classroom. He was the class clown, a jerk who had no idea of that tragedy. All he cared about was getting out of school.”

“Yes, that was a horrible scene and I’ll never forget those words…President Kennedy has been assassinated, school is dismissed.  Most of us just sat there, in shock. Mrs. Klein put her head down on the desk and sat there, crying. Sad, sad memory.  Well, on that note, I have to run.   It was good seeing you again, Steve.”

“Good seeing you too Patty, just remember that you can’t run forever.  Memories have a way of bringing people together again if only in their dreams.”

 

Flicker of Inspiration Prompt #14: Talk It Out

For this week’s prompt, we’d like you to tell us a story using only dialogue. That’s right. There can be no “he said/she said,” no modifiers at all in fact. Just conversation, plain and simple, between quotes. Not that you necessarily have to use quotation marks…just look at Cormac McCarthy, he uses no quotations marks at all.  Tell a tale through conversation and dialogue between your “characters.” This can be fiction or non-fiction…and can even be poetry.

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Rainy afternoons and Bridal Showers……

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Today was a good day for a Bridal Shower; not perfect, mind you, just enjoyable, with a hint of Fall lingering in the air. Cloudy skies gave way to sprinklings of rain while small gusts of wind kept peeking into the huge tent that rested on the banks of the Hudson River.  Inside, guests shivered and kept talking about “how nice this would have been if it was sunny out” while they sipped their Mimosa’s.  Off in a corner was a table piled high with treasure, gifts of all sizes wrapped in an assortment of colors, ribbons and silk flowers, one prettier than the other. You could almost hear little voices from within each box yelling “Open Me First!”  

Sitting at a table close to me was my best friend, Helene`, from a long time ago.  We’ve managed to see each other, now and then, at events both happy and sad; I often think back to the times I made believe that I was part of her family while we were growing up, spending as much time as possible at her home.  Years ago, we conjured up some distant relations from my side and hers that made us family and always called each other “Cuz”.

This Sunday gathering, of family and friends, was in honor of her nephew’s future wife and it presented one more opportunity to talk about how Helene` and I first met.  Back in the 1940’s, her father dated my mother until he went off to war, ended up being stationed in France and met a lovely woman who would later become his wife.  Meanwhile…stateside, my mother, a singer with the U.S.O, met a sailor who was on Navy leave before shipping out to the South Pacific; that man would eventually be my father.

Are you following all this?  Good.

The men returned from their military and naval service, married, had kids and stayed friendly, even visiting once or twice after the war ended.  Helene` and I met up again in Junior High School, not having seen each other since we were 4 years old.  During those few years we shared teen-age heartbreak over boyfriends and the fun of weekly roller-skating at a nearby Boy’s Club.   Sadly, like too many friends, we drifted apart before high school ended; she went away to Grace Downs Airline School and I went to work for New York Telephone….and envied her.  We connected again in time for me to be the Maid of Honor at her wedding and then she was once again..gone.  Our lives went on to take many different turns but when we did manage to see each other, she always seemed so happy and content….and I envied her still.  

Recently, I sent her the link to my blog and today, we sat and talked like little had changed between us….but something had.  We both realized that, as friends, we shared some, but not all secrets.  Each of us had things going on in our lives that we kept hidden inside.  Did that somehow make us less than best friends?  If either of us had known some deep dark secret about the other would we have even remained friends?

I’d like to believe we would have.

I will see her, in just 4 more weeks, at her nephew’s wedding; we’ll sit and talk some more and, when that day’s joyful festivities end, go our separate ways once again.  But, like today, I’ll tell her that I love her when we say good-bye.  She was a positive part of my life; I wouldn’t have gotten through a lot of the pain without her, although she never knew anything about it.

Maybe that’s what true friendship is really all about.

 

workshop-button-1   Tell us about the moment you met your high school best friend.  This Writing Prompt from Mama Kat’s took me back to a piece I wrote back in 2010.  I’ve had friendships over the years but this one will always remain categorized under “best friends”.  A category of just one.

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