Grab each moment…

Nothing lasts forever. Well, some things do; all of life’s paraphernalia that we leave behind and the memories we leave for others. Somewhere down the line, someone may remember. Hopefully, fondly.


Then, there are relationships, friends and family who we often take for granted. As we all know, this human connectivity often disappears with harsh words or life’s final curtain. We’re left thinking about whatever part we played in a situation might have been handled better and how we should have made a more concerted effort to keep people close to us in our lives.


The catalyst? Human nature being what it is; we are, all of us, imperfect creatures, fueled by emotion which can lead to careless behavior. And hurt that leaves irreparable damage to others.


As life grows shorter with each passing day, the realization of how we’ve let too many things get completely out of control weighs heavily on our mind. The assumption of people always being there fades as time goes by and, with that, the opportunities wane to bring healing and closure to difficult situations.


Take not one moment for granted…that moment can never be replaced.

From Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop….Write about something you took for granted.
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Psycho&Logical

This…will be one of those times that I’ll avoid having The Husband read what I’ve written. Not that he ever really does but, that’s a story for another day.


I’ve previously shared about how we’re two Virgos, always competing to be in the driver’s seat. He can do anything I can do better, , and vice versa. Trust me, it ain’t pretty!

Call it a “knack”, call it a curse, but I constantly initiate marital warfare by interrupting him, usually three words into any given comment he attempts to make. Understand that, after all of these years together, I can easily anticipate what he’s going to say; it’s like me being the engine and he’s the caboose, way, way, back on the tracks, just along for the ride.


My excuse for the conflict is being a writer and I think anyone else who delves into the same will agree. Our minds are always focused on putting every thought, idea, and a motherload of memories down on the screen in front of us, or on some notepad. Not necessarily a bad thing, right?

Example: Enter The Husband, as in most daily scenarios, having just watched a marathon of history shows on the telly, and the conversation begins with…”Did you know that Lake Mead….” and I jump right in and exclaim “yes, it’s over 200 miles wide and more than 100 miles long!” That…is followed by “will you let me finish the damn sentence!!” I smirk to myself and walk away. My bad.

I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing to have one’s mind working at a fair rate of speed, especially during these later years of life. Of course, as long as the mental engine operates on all eight cylinders of course. Yes, I said cylinders. Powered by gas, not some stator wrapped tightly with copper wires which the alternating current coming from the inverter runs through, otherwise known as what makes up an EV along with all of its chronic problems.


Sorry, I regressed there for a moment. I do despise EV’s, though.


When all is said and done, I’d surmise that The Husband would appreciate finishing his comment before I barrel ass into the discussion. That…would involve me turning off my mind, kind of like turning down the gas under a boiling pot of something. Issue is, that lid will come off eventually, having allowed plenty of time for my brain to produce an energetic rebuttal.

I’ll give it some thought but I’m not making any promises.

From Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop: Tell us about a habit or trait your spouse would love to see improved in you.

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Right or wrong…

Unless you communicate, it’s difficult to know how to love another person. 

I posted this as my Facebook status this morning as thoughts were rumbling through my head over various conflicts in my immediate world.  It just seemed to fit.

Sometimes, you have to address an issue with a dedicated sense of resolve, even determination, to face a particular conflict…at least halfway.  To barricade oneself in a corner, fists firmly clenched in a combative stance, well, it’s completely counterproductive.  The end result in any ongoing disagreement is that nobody wins.  Anger turns inwards, it hardens your heart as you cover your pain with an emotional blanket.   Beings that once felt love now can only muster indifference, even regret. 

Forgiving someone means making a conscious decision not to hurt that person in face of any hurt they might have caused.  Deep inside you hope the other person will recognize and feel sorrow for their hurtful behavior so that a few positive steps can help you move away from the pain.  And, the halfway thing?  When there is wrong on both sides, meeting someone in the middle, a compromise, can be instrumental in moving forward from the hurt.

Communicate.

 

 

 

 

 

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.

When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full to talk about. Ideas, language, even the phrase each other doesn’t make any sense.”

– Jelaluddin Rumi, 13th century Muslim mystic.

 

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