Unless you communicate, it’s difficult to know how to love another person. 

I posted this as my Facebook status this morning as thoughts were rumbling through my head over various conflicts in my immediate world.  It just seemed to fit.

Sometimes, you have to address an issue with a dedicated sense of resolve, even determination, to face a particular conflict…at least halfway.  To barricade oneself in a corner, fists firmly clenched in a combative stance, well, it’s completely counterproductive.  The end result in any ongoing disagreement is that nobody wins.  Anger turns inwards, it hardens your heart as you cover your pain with an emotional blanket.   Beings that once felt love now can only muster indifference, even regret. 

Forgiving someone means making a conscious decision not to hurt that person in face of any hurt they might have caused.  Deep inside you hope the other person will recognize and feel sorrow for their hurtful behavior so that a few positive steps can help you move away from the pain.  And, the halfway thing?  When there is wrong on both sides, meeting someone in the middle, a compromise, can be instrumental in moving forward from the hurt.

Communicate.

 

 

 

 

 

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.

When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full to talk about. Ideas, language, even the phrase each other doesn’t make any sense.”

– Jelaluddin Rumi, 13th century Muslim mystic.