Emotion and Ink…

To begin, I’m inspired to write by the things that stay with me and some that haunt me.

There’s a conversation I keep replaying, a memory that suddenly resurfaces after years of silence. Then, something I witness makes me laugh, makes absolutely no sense or makes me downright angry. People inspire me, those in my circle and others, in general. Some, not always in ways they would appreciate knowing about.

I write because I notice things.

I notice what people say, but probably more importantly, what they don’t say. I notice contradictions, small acts of kindness, ridiculous behavior, old wounds, unexpected humor, and those ordinary moments that seem insignificant until, somehow, they aren’t.

Writing gives me a place to put all of it.

I’ve written a book that remains unpublished, and I created a website around much of what inspired it. But publication was never the thing that made me a writer. Writing did.

There is something wonderfully permanent about taking a thought that exists only in your head and giving it words. I find it cathartic to channel my emotions through ink for, once it’s written, it has weight. It can make someone laugh, remember, reconsider, or occasionally become annoyed with you. I’m perfectly comfortable with all four.

So, what inspires me to write?

Life does. People do. Memory does. The absurdity, and occasional insanity, of human nature certainly does. But, perhaps more than anything, I write because there is always something I’m not quite finished saying.

From the Writer’s Workshop: What inspires you to write?

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Faded photo, fresh creativity…

While on an intense purging binge recently, I found an old charcoal sketch dating way back to my high school years. Previously, I had shared it with friends, then promptly packed it away. Memories came flooding back about the strictness of the art classes I suffered through. The anxiety to follow the teacher’s lesson plan and produce perfect results always impacted my desire to express myself outside the artistic box. While sitting in the midst of a pile of items, trying to decide what would stay or go, I opened my high school art case. As I rummaged through the paint-stained wooden case, my inspiration suddenly grabbed hold of me and I found my charcoal sticks and a collection of brushes and paints. The smell of linseed oil and streaks of yellow and blue oil paint inside the case reminded me that I was wrong to think that any expression of art required absolute neatness or perfect precision. These many, many, years later, I’ve come to realize that raw emotion matters so much more.

At this point in time, my focus is on my imagination which encourages me to delve into textures, bordering on the abstract, with a mixture of thick colors, on a brush which hits the canvas like a conductor leading an orchestra. Whether painting or sketching, in all the time that’s passed, art allows me to process complex feelings without using words, as I do each time I write here on my website. Creating something new helps to minimize my daily stress and any mistakes now feel like beautiful new opportunities rather than failures.

That one old sketch was an important reminder on how creating, anything, should be done without regimentation or fear.

From the Writer’s Workshop: Write a post in exactly twelve (12) lines. Tell us about someone in your family who has artistic ability. Share an old photo and let it inspire a blog post.



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“Aha” moments.

What honestly inspires me to be better? Good question, let me dig deeply for an “Aha” moment.

I’d have to say that It’s a mix of seeing someone absolutely crush a project, watching a puppy learn to navigate stairs, and that overwhelming feeling of peace when the desk in my home office is actually clean. All summed up, I’m guessing this isn’t all that impressive but, it’s kind of like the “butterfly effect” of small actions, you know? A pleasant email or text message, a ten-minute walk on a sunny day which makes me want to stop being a human-doing-nothing-productive and move my ass to start being a human-doing-decently-well. It’s about being in the right place, right this very minute, and realizing that me in the future is just me in the present, only with fewer excuses. Sound like a plan?

Since you asked (or subtly suggested) here is my very personal and lighthearted “Do More Often” proclamation for self-improvement:

1) I need to drink more water, mainly because of CKD (look it up) and that hydration helps with that as well as making me feel like a functioning adult instead of a wilted houseplant.
2) I need to smile, even when it’s fake and choose positivity and trusting that it works out, even if my cheeks hurt.
3) I need to take a “Tech Sabbath”; one Saturday or Sunday without my phone so that I can prove I can handle reality. (Trust me, this one will not be easy.)
4) I need to read physical books. My phone is for scrolling and my brain deserves better than seconds of YouTube or IG.
5) I need to stop in the middle of the road and help a turtle. I’ve done it before, highly recommend it, advise everyone to do the same. (Just watch out for the asshole drivers in both directions.)
6) I need to unsubscribe from emails (we ALL do) and declutter my digital life.
7) I need to focus less on overcomplicating simple decisions. Let’s face it folks, spending 30 minutes picking out something I do not need (but want) on Amazon just isn’t productive.

And, in the “Do Less Often” column:

1) Stop explaining myself to people who misunderstand on purpose.
2) Stop eating emergency” snacks, something we ALL do, don’t deny it.
3) Stop checking my phone in the first 15 minutes (or less) of waking up.
4) Stop pretending that I can multitask. (I cannot, and now my coffee is cold).
5) Speaking of coffee, stop thinking “Do I really need another coffee?” and just make it.
6) Stop re-reading that awkward text I sent back in 2019.
7) Stop waiting for perfection before I finish a project.


It all sounds so very plausible, doesn’t it? At least, that’s what I keep telling myself, as convincingly as possible. From this point forward, I will listen to my inner critic and stop listening to that dramatic little voice in my head. I will remember that I’m a person, not a computer, stop trying to always multitask because I’m currently burning my imaginary toast.

It’s all about trying to be a better me, one step at a time. I just hope I don’t trip.

From the Writer’s Workshop: Write about something that inspires you to do better. List seven things you need to do more often, and seven things you need to do less often.

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