Tell me..what is good about good-byes?

I’ve missed ya’ll!  

Nah, I’m not a Southern gal, just an overworked, tired and getting sadder, New Yorker. 

Why sad, you ask?  Well, my oldest Daughter and her two little sons have been visiting for the last several days; they head back to Florida, early tomorrow morning.  I’ve had the luxury of all four of my Grandkids screaming, yelling, pissing and moaning and asking to be fed constantly.  Wouldn’t change any of that for all the tea in China, either.  I am  The Gramma…hear me roar!

                              

I so hate good-byes and miss so many of the important moments of Jake and Jaden’s growing-up due to the miles between us.  Sure, I could hop a plane (after a lengthy and invasive pat-down from the TSA) and visit but, it’s not as easy as it used to be, given the economy and so many other things.  So, for now, I look forward to their twice a year visits and try not to dwell on their leaving..once again.

We’ve had a busy, busy, busy time this trip, entertaining the kids (they dragged me to go Bowling, would you believe it?) and…a wonderful wedding dinner in celebration of our son’s recent marriage which has blessed our family with another daughter, Kristy.  She fits right in as if she had been here all along; a very good thing, indeed!

                                                     

I made a cake for their party and thought you might like to see a picture….

                                        

Note:  Warm weather, Fondant and driving 50 miles to a restaurant….not recommended.  Blog post to follow…

So, right now, I’m off to be sad and share the last day of my family’s visit.  That melancholy will continue tomorrow and, after that, I’ll just go back to missing them and feeling grateful that I have them and the rest of my family in my life.

Oh…I was honored to do a Guest Post over at No. 7’s place this morning, grouped in with some pretty fabulous bloggers who shared incredible poetry and stories.  Kelli’s back now so please, stop by and welcome her home!

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Butterflies and good-byes….

 

My mother passed-away in 2006,  sitting in my home, listening to Glenn Miller playing on satellite radio; she loved the 40’s Channel on XM and knew every song without missing a beat.

Some things, she remembered.

We were her family aside from her two remaining brothers who managed to hide in the shadows after taking a few material advantages during her deteriorating mental state; both have now gone on to their greater reward which, I hope, has been a heavenly confrontation with their sister, or…the devil himself.

Mom had wanted to be cremated and I had her wishes carried out; services were private and unconventional.  My oldest daughter flew up from Florida with her little son and together we went to the funeral home to pick up my mother’s ashes.  Along with my middle daughter and two other grandchildren, we tucked my mother into a colorful tote bag and all went shopping…to Trader Joe’s.  My mother’s favorite pastime was going into a store, any store, for hours on end.

That excursion was followed by a trip to the beach, mother included.  She just loved the beach.


                                                   

There, on that warm July day, the kids played, we laughed and suddenly…one solitary butterfly hovered around us for what seemed hours.  As we looked, there were no other delicate painted creatures flying around… except for this one.

                                                                
                                        
Butterflies were another of my mother’s favorites; she had butterfly earrings, pins, necklaces and knick-knacks everywhere when she was alive.
                                                                      
                                                  
We smiled and enjoyed the visitor who periodically landed on top of the tote bag where Mom rested.  Very late that afternoon, when it came time to pack up and head home, the butterfly slowly flew away, stopping now and then as if to look back and say good-bye.

And we said ours.

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