Look away…

 

She constantly refused to look into a mirror, any mirror.

My mother.

It wasn’t because of vanity or due to failing eyesight.

She could see clearly, without eyeglasses, towards the end of her life.

It didn’t matter.

The reflection staring back was unrecognizable

To her.

That person, that old woman with gray hair and wrinkled skin was someone else.  “A witch” she often said as she quickly looked away from what she had determined was some creature hiding in the glass.  She would cover her face with both hands.   It wasn’t her, not by any means;  she was young,  in her twenties, still with dark hair and red lipstick.

In her mind.

Mother lived in long ago realities; the aging process stopped and did a U-turn back about fifty or more years once Alzheimer’s took control.   In some ways, I was envious.  She didn’t have to deal with life’s sorrows and responsibilities but that was nothing new.   For as long as I could painfully remember she always managed to look away from bothersome issues,  seeing only what she wanted.  Comfortable, happy reflections.


I was never her mirror of choice.




Flicker of Inspiration Prompt #18: Objects In the Mirror

It’s a standard warning on car mirrors: “Objects in the mirror may be closer than they appear”. Mirrors don’t always give a truly honest reflection. Sometimes, the mirror is warped; sometimes, it’s only our perceptions. When Alice went into her mirror, it was the world itself that was distorted. And yet at times, the mirror will show you true things that you weren’t aware of; something around a corner, or behind you, or on another spectral plane. People can even act as mirrors; they can show you yourself as others see you.

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Never…ever..

Never…tell me the odds or make excuses. 

   I hate that!

Never…tell me what you think I want to hear.  Tell me the truth.

  Always!

Never…assume that you know what my next step will be.

  Big, big mistake!

Never…think that I’ll stand back and allow you to hurt those I love or someone I don’t know at all.

  Doubt me?  Really? 

Never…pass on any moment where you can tell those closest to you that you love them and how important they are in your life.

  Children, especially.   Love is the best positive reinforcement they can receive!

Never…take a sunrise, or sunset, for granted.  Never think they are all the same and that there will always be another.

 9/11/01.  Need I say more?

Never…hesitate to reach out and offer help, or support, to someone in need even if all you have to give is just a kind word or smile.

  “There, but for the grace of God…”?  Think about it.

Never…doubt that we are all put on this earth for a reason and often spend a lifetime trying to discover just what that is.  Never doubt your potential!

  Enjoy the long wild ride that, hopefully, gets you there!  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Hey there, Grandma!

National Grandparents Day is a secular holiday celebrated in the United States since 1978 and officially recognized in a number of countries on various days of the year, either as one holiday or sometimes as a separate Grandmothers Day and Grandfathers Day.

Got that?  Can you believe I forgot? (so did my family!)

This year, the date fell on September 11th and most of the world was focused on the tenth anniversary of 9/11.  I realized that I didn’t give my very special friend a call in celebration of her first Grandmas Day.  Actually, I have two dear friends who are first-time Grammas but this one person holds a special spot in my life and that of my family.

I’ve blogged about her, told of a fund-raising MS Walk that a group of family and friends did on her behalf, in an earlier post about shoes.  Her name is Dotti; to me and many others, she is the most beautiful, loving Grandma anywhere!

 

Dotti won’t see this post because she doesn’t go on the internet but I will print it out and send her a copy.  Knowing her, she’ll giggle and coo over this photo where she holds her new Grandson shortly after he was born.  She’ll ask me how I got this picture and I’ll have to lie admit that I swiped borrowed it from her daughter-in-law’s Facebook album.  

As I look at the photo, I know exactly what’s going through Dotti’s head as she looks down at the baby and my heart breaks.  The cruelty of Multiple Sclerosis will rob her of the chance to easily take her Grandson out for a walk, or tumble around on the floor for playtime.  Knowing her, she’ll certainly try but, with each day as her illness worsens, it becomes more difficult.  It doesn’t affect the amount of love she has for this new life and no other Grandma has a glow that comes close to hers.

Not even me.

An accomplished Hairstylist, Dotti still loves to work and can do hair for hours on end; standing in one spot is easy but the MS can make other movements hard to navigate.  Her ability to drive a car hasn’t been compromised and she’s out constantly, visiting friends and, of course, her treasured Grandson.

Right now, if it were in my power to change many things for her, I would.   I want her to enjoy her loving family for years to come.  My wish is that this new little life carries Dotti’s loving spirit inside.. always.  I hope he has her wonderful laugh and concern for how everyone else is, never focusing on her own issues.  I hope she gets to take him to a pumpkin patch, to visit Santa and on a trip to Disney.

I hope.

 

 

 

 

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