I could live in one of these…….

We all need a place to escape, somewhere away from the stress of daily living and in a spot where we can enjoy our favorite passions without someone coming through the door and upsetting our apple cart at any given moment.  A place of our very own.

Somewhere where bad memories cannot hide in the shadows. 

If I had the chance I would, without hesitation, build one of these tiny houses.  I’d have a tiny garden and I would sit near a tiny window while deciding whether to read my favorite books, work on my writing or delve into my oil paints and paint a tiny masterpiece….while a tiny dog sat at my feet.

Oh yes, I could live in one of these.  Would you come for a tiny visit?

                                     

 Dream for yourself, like I’m doing…….

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I do believe in spooks, I do, I do, I do….

The great Missing Book Caper is over…..but the mystery surrounding it lingers on.
                                                                 

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How something can be under your nose one minute and totally disappear from sight the next is, well, beyond strange.  Someone, or something, crept into my world for no other reason than to test both my patience and sanity.

Previously, I related about how the tote bag containing all the files for my book was nowhere to be found; the most maddening part of the deal was that I had my hands, and eyes, on it shortly before it went missing.  Friends and family advised checking the room my late mother occupied when she lived with us; of course that was one of the first things I did.

Welllll…..not completely.

The door to that room, our guest room, is always closed; actually, it’s one of my favorite rooms in the house.  Decorated in a beach house motif, the plaque on the door reads “Lighthouse Inn”,  a sheer canopy hangs gracefully from the ceiling over the bed and the walls are adorned with nautical artwork.  Two antique bureaus stand like soldiers on either side of a vintage desk and chair that is situated in front of a window, looking out onto the front lawn….my favorite place for a desk.  It’s a lovely room, showing no scars from my mother’s nightly dementia-battles.  On one wall a huge double closet holds my summer clothes as well as my Dept. 56 North Pole Village collection,  Christmas items too fragile to store up in our attic.

I never really, really looked in there.

With temperatures dropping steadily below freezing now, it was time to move my warm-weather wardrobe.  As I shuffled clothes onto hangers, stuck next to the Dept. 56 box containing “Toots Model Train Mfg.” was my tote bag and missing book, upside down, to boot.  It was almost as if it was hastily, even angrily, shoved into one corner of the closet.  Trust me on this, there would have been absolutely no reason for me to ever move my writings out of my office and brutally cram it all into that closet, no how, no way! 

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I’m innocent, I tell ya, innocent!!  And, before you say, or think, “well at least you found it” understand that I still find it…spooky.  Why?  Try this on for size….my Mom’s nickname was….”Toots”. 
In order to thwart further spirit-thievery episodes, the door to our guest room will remain locked until my Florida family arrives in three weeks for Thanksgiving and I’ve also hidden my tote bag and book.

Not telling you, not telling anyone…..where. 

                                                                                                            

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Let the Sundowning begin. Come howl at the Moon…..

The next scheduled moon phase is due on November 6, 2010 when a new moon makes its debut; a full moon waits in the wings to wreak its havoc on November 21st.

While my mother lived with us, life was dictated by the lunar calendar.  Episodes of Sundowning were always at their peak during a moon cycle and the consequences of her tirades generated many sleepless nights for everyone within hearing distance of her outbursts.  The subject of so-called full moon insanity is one of much debate with scientists rushing to spew out data on what they feel is folklore, media effects, tradition, misconceptions or cognitive biases surrounding human or animal behavior during any moon phase.

Ivan Kelly, James Rotton and Roger Culver (1996) examined over 100 studies on lunar effects and concluded that the studies have failed to show a reliable and significant correlation (i.e., one not likely due to chance) between the full moon, or any other phase of the moon, and each of the following:
-the homicide rate
-traffic accidents
-crisis calls to police or fire stations
-domestic violence
-births of babies
-suicide
-major disasters
-casino payout rates
-assassinations
-kidnappings
-aggression by professional hockey players
-violence in prisons

-psychiatric admissions [one study found admissions were lowest during a full moon]
-agitated behavior by nursing home residents
-assaults
-gunshot wounds
-stabbings
-emergency room admissions [
but see]
-behavioral outbursts of psychologically challenged rural adults
-lycanthropy

vampirism
-alcoholism
-sleep walking
epilepsy

I completely disagree with Kelly, Rotton and Culver on several of their assessments.  For example, these scientists did not live in my home for three years listening to my mother perform her dementia-operetta whenever the moonlight danced through the window of her room.  Millions of people continue to believe as I do, disregarding studies that pigeonhole these psychotic behaviors as nothing more than lunar myths.

Nursing homes have been a main source of reports concerning patients who, during a moon phase, are highly agitated, bang on walls, scream, yell and, even wearing a WanderGuard, manage an escape now and then from the facilities that house them.

Where my mother was concerned, I was often amazed at her agility during her episodes of Sundowning.  Alzheimer’s disease had re-located her mind to some fifty years, or more, in the past; back to a time when she was a young woman, full of piss and vinegar and able to get around most obstacles that blocked her path.  Now in her eighties, frail and unsteady when she walked, when a full moon was at its peak, so was mother.  She would yell for hours, manage to untie her bed restraint, undress herself and make a break for it.  Stopping any escape would be met with her clenched fists and notable profanity as she was led back to her room.  Usually within an hour of settling her down the rampage would start all over again.  Mom would always manage to drift off to sleep just when it was time to get her up and going for the day, never exhibiting an ounce of exhaustion from the long night before.

Certainly, the light shed by a full moon can mimic daylight for a mentally compromised individual, even for domesticated and wild animals.  Time to howl at the moon, waken everyone in the surrounding area and get up and walk around. 

My mother did just that whenever the giant, glowing, cheesehead grinned down from the heavens.

                                                

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