My fickle friend, the summer wind…

It felt like a needle had pierced her foot. Cursing, she reached down to pluck a tiny seashell from between her toes. Fitting end to summer, she thought.

The soft breeze sweeping in from the ocean did little to soothe her attitude. She hated good-byes, not that there had been any ceremonious parting of the ways when he left. Not a note, text message, anything. Still, she hoped for one last word. Down deep inside, she knew any explanation would just be some manufactured attempt at the truth. More like an excuse.

Passing the lighthouse where they met, she scolded herself for not realizing that he was a player from the moment their paths first crossed. He was a smooth talker, knew all the right lines and how to cleverly push the right buttons on her emotions. Over the last few weeks she fell for his act, every step of the way.

She hit the music icon on her phone and broke into a run on the beach, sometimes stumbling in the sand. Her moves seemed almost desperate, as if she was trying to leave every painful memory of him behind. The warm wind gently touched her cheeks as she ran and, for a brief moment, her heart hurt less, until she heard Frank Sinatra’s voice in her earbuds. One line, my fickle friend, the summer wind, brought it all back like waves crashing on the sandy shore as the song came to an end.

From the Writer’s Workshop… Take a line from a song you like and use it as the title for your post, then let your ideas flow.
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Not just a June thing…

As Pride Month is both acknowledged and celebrated, my mindset is focused on the strength involved in the many different areas of life and why we pause for one month to wave flags of recognition. The quality someone possesses which helps them to overcome adversity may be physical, it might be mental. Many personal situations call for different forms of strength and deserve more than a calendar representation.


My feeling is that designating a month-long observance is extreme, such recognition should be an everyday occurrence in accepting individual capacities for particular ways of thinking, feeling and believing. At month’s end, people tend to move on until the next yearly observance rolls around and brings a repeat of retail marketing and other factions focused more on financial gain than the personal battles of so many individuals. We see this with so many observances for our veterans, historical and other events. Whether it is one day set aside for remembrance or one month, people move on and too easily forget.


What is overlooked are the character strengths involved with the word “pride”, wisdom, courage, humanity, justice, temperance and transcendence. As far as I’m concerned, these six virtues of positive psychology are benchmarks for anyone embracing life patterns that give them a voice and productive goals as human beings. Daily encouragement of children to become aware of their strengths allows them to develop more self-confidence, self-awareness, and a deeper appreciation and value for how each of us is different.


There is such a positive impact with encouraging individuals to explore and understand their individual character strengths. We all need to be supportive, not just for a moment, one day, or a given month, rather each and every day. Simply helping others to develop true pride by encouraging their creativity, perspective, and bravery, as they pursue whatever their chosen path in life is, that in itself denotes the ultimate measure of strength.

From the Writer’s Workshop… Write a post based on the word  “strength”.
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Decisions…

We all have bad days, disappointing weeks, and downright difficult months, especially where these past few years have been concerned. All are part and parcel of life that we can hardly avoid, something everyone has experienced in their chosen career.


The stage is then set where smart people remain in bad jobs, leading to burnout, anxiety and depression, all impacting their physical and mental health, reminding them that they have the power to push through and come out stronger on the other side.


Bad choices made by an employer are demonstrative not of their commitment to their staff but focused more on their own agendas. The need to work in a healthy environment and feel valued and respected ends up being a persuasive line of thinking, one that renders workers immobilized and incapable of leaving that job.


We start to question ourselves, wondering if we’re running away instead of staying when things become difficult; are we lacking, does this job legitimately suck and am I right to leave? Let’s face it, work has challenges for everyone and there certainly is no such thing as a perfect job but it’s definitely hard to persevere when things are shitty in the workplace.


Aspiring to be the kind of people who lean in when there are challenges and make a difference during the hard times is important but when do we know when it’s time to make a move? The obvious answer is that if you’re made to feel unimportant or disrespected in any way, it’s time to leave but, if you honestly feel motivated, engaged and valued at your job, there may be reasons to keep digging your heels in and continue doing your best.


Ask yourself if you are the same person when you started this job, do you have the same values, interests and priorities? If not, it may be time to leave because you’ve evolved in one direction and your employer in another. The longer you stick it out, the more acutely painful the gap between your values and your employers will become.

From the Writer’s Workshop…Write a post in exactly 12 sentences.
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