I can do anything better than you…


From Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop…Write about something you are better at than your spouse.

Wow.  If ever there was a proverbial loaded gun in a writing prompt, this is it!

It all started with Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.  Remember that book, written way back in 1992 by John Gray and how it focused on how each sex is acclimated to its own planet’s society and customs, but not to those of the other?


I have a copy.  I refer to it, often.  Sometimes, I just want to throw the book at The Husband.

What…am I better at than my spouse?  Something?  Just one thing?  You must be kidding me!

For starters, I am…more organized than he.  The fact that, each and every time, when he cannot…find his glasses, his phone, the remote, his car keys, socks, underwear…I am in front of him approximately three seconds after his outburst, holding any, maybe all, of the above.

I put thoughts together more quickly than The Husband.  Any time he starts a conversation with “Remember that cranky guy who came into our business?”, I give him a name, date, description of what cranky guy wore on that day and what he purchased.

Here’s a BIG one…driving.   Car rides are always a test of patience.  And, from my “riding shotgun” side, a test of survival.  The Husband has a need to always adjust everything in the car… mirrors, volume, seat (okay, I’m short and he’s not so he has to move the seat back so his knees don’t hit the dashboard)…in any event, when he makes these adjustments, while driving, he tends to swerve.  I yell, he yells.  He drives faster than the speed limit because my car has front and rear laser radar detection.  He speeds, I yell.  He yells back.

And one more…cooking.  I am a pretty decent chef in my own right.  The Husband does not cook.  Ever.  Well, he did once, a long time ago.  He made an entire box of Uncle Ben’s rice.  A 2 lb. box.  20 servings.  He has since been banned from the kitchen.


Last one.  Answering questions from our Grandkids.  When The Husband is comfortable with a given topic thrown out by one of the kids, there is no holding him back.  Or shutting him up.  Now and then, he’ll lapse into a blank stare, trying desperately to come up with an answer but I can see he’s like a drowning rat on a sinking ship.  He gives me a knowing, pleading, look and, of course,  Grandma always saves the day!

Yes, indeed.  Men and women are from different planets and can spend a lifetime together, never working out all which makes them unique in their relationship.  It can be difficult, consuming and downright exhausting.  But, as John Gray quoted…“Fortunately perfection is not a requirement for creating great relationships.”  





  1. Astrid says:

    Great post! I have never read that book and don’t think it appeals to me. I honestly cannot think of many things I can do better than my husband.

    • Patty says:

      That book was kind of like a relationship guide for its time, Astrid. Over the years, the dynamics between men and women have changed, drastically. Reminds me of relying on everything \”Dr. Spock\” when my children were born. I quickly threw that book away!

  2. John Holton says:

    He’s lucky to have you…

  3. madamdreamweaver says:

    I remember when Dr. Gray was fairly regular on Oprah and had wonderful insightful advice. I like many of the points in his book as well. The rice incident gave me a chuckle. My husband was making cornbread once and misread 1 tsp of baking power as 1 Tablespoon. It looked like a sponge. He bans himself from the kitchen.

    • Patty says:

      Maybe it\’s a \”woman-thing\” that many of us can breeze through a recipe, adding a little-of-this, a little-of-that, and it comes out perfectly. I think men approach cooking like they\’re working on a car with a crowbar.

  4. Kat says:

    This made me laugh…it really is a loaded prompt! lol But I swear it was like you were describing my own marriage!

    • Patty says:

      Well, Kat, The Husband and I are approaching 50 years of all this “wedded bliss”; in this expanse of time, n o t h i n g has changed.

      Now I know just why God created Eve, and not because He was focused on procreation (although that has been a bonus). There’s no way in Hell that men could have ever survived on their own.

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