Wow….Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop came up with a good one this week in a list of writing prompt ideas….The last time someone called you a name.
I laughed to myself and thought it would be more difficult to write about when someone didn’t call me a name!
Let me expand on that.
First, a little self name-calling here…I tend to be a bitch. Fairly well educated, accomplished, decent dresser, great cook but…terribly bitchy. Hey, I’m the first to acknowledge what I am and I do it well. I’ve earned this title!
But, harsh words coming from another direction well, that’s something else entirely. Whether in a moment of heated discussion or any other situation, being the recipient of a nasty name can cut into your soul like a knife. I’m guessing what hurts the most is your realization that others see you in some type of tarnished light, depending on whatever confrontation is involved. Then again, there are people who thrive on name-calling in some effort to hold power over another.
What this brings me to are words that have stayed embedded in a corner of my mind since childhood and more than any derisive comment which has been thrown at me over the years. Growing-up and frequently hearing “you’re just a dumb, stupid kid” from my late father have left their impact. To this day, if I fudge some task I’m working on or make a big mistake (which happens often), his jabbing words come back like ghosts that haunt me. Depending on the circumstance, I’ll mutter to myself how dumb and stupid I’ve been.
Whether ignorance along with some willful bad parenting is the culprit, calling names, in any form, leaves a lifelong hurt. We yell at our children or call them names wrapped in negative connotations to try to get them to stop doing things we don’t like. We make them feel bad about themselves or with whatever situation they are involved in. And yes, I’m guilty of doing the same to my children during their formative years. Children learn what they live and there is absolutely no excuse for perpetuating the unacceptable behaviors of one’s past.
So, the last time someone called me a name? I did. Just now. Don’t ask.